Wednesday, April 3, 2013

Lessons from Jawbreakers

Dear Friends,
Why do I need winter, a garage, a cat, Jawbreakers, and a friend to help me to learn contentment and joy? Isn’t reading God’s word and going to church enough? Well, it’s NOT for this writer.
Sermons at church about joy and contentment prick my heart from time to time. But when those lessons are coupled with relationships that show me the contrast between what I SHOULD do and what I AM doing—then things get moving. Change happens. We all know that God's word says to imitate Jesus. To do that, we must be constantly changing. If I'm imitating Him, then I'm always repenting of my sin and seeking His design. My friend Jane is helping me to do that in a mighty way. 
Jane asks me, “How can I heat the garage I’m living in with a space heater and not drive up the owner’s utility bill?” I admit my ignorance and then begin to brainstorm with her.  She is not bitter about her living situation—quite the opposite. In fact, I actually notice her contentment and her gratitude to the family letting her live in their garage.
WOW, that is in STARK contrast to the 
way that I respond to all I have.
Now we get to the part about Jane’s cat—I really don’t like cats. Jane has four cats, and she loves them. So where does my friend find her joy? She is elated to be on our computers at Advance learning how to use email so that she can communicate with an agency that will help take care of her cats for free. As I am talking to her, she asks me a question about email. Eventually she sends off her request for help, delighted that she has found a way to help her cats.
Then Jane’s Champion (mentor) arrives. Jane jumps up—thrilled—and says “I love this lady!” You see, Jane had been asking for a Champion for months (she went through Jobs for Life before we offered mentoring). Advance began to pray and ask friends if they would be this woman’s Champion. God has answered that prayer and Jane is studying God’s word with her Champion. This mentor knew it was my friend’s birthday and brought a cake to celebrate! Now Jane's joy was overflowing; her delight over cats being helped for free, having a friend to study the Bible with her, and having a birthday cake. I have more friends and invitations to study the Bible than I can possibly accept, plus birthday cake options every year. Again, God is using her joy and contentment to convict my heart. 
Now let’s deal with this box of candy. A couple of weeks ago Jane was in the office and shared her Jawbreakers with me.  Today she asks me to close my eyes because she has a surprise for me. We all know the game and I was happy to play. Her hands are behind her back. I’m told to pick a hand. I pick left and am given a box of Jawbreakers! I’m thrilled with the gift and my heart is now in tension.
Friends, this woman joyfully lives in a garage and has planned this purchase and gift for me—JAWBREAKERS. Why don’t I have more joy, contentment, and generosity in my life? Oh, the reasons are many; maybe my environment is too sterile (church, neighborhood, school) or maybe I’m just “too busy” to plan a thoughtful gift or listen to God or reflect on a sermon.
I know I'm not the only one who benefits from seeing this contrast. Won't you come get involved in a personal relationship and begin to embrace cats, candy, and garages? God will continue to use His word and many other things—Jawbreakers!—to move us toward being more joyful, content, and generous. Please bring your time, talents, and resources. Let’s build His kingdom and embrace reciprocal learning!

Sincerely,

Steve






Tuesday, February 26, 2013

Crime and Poverty and Ourselves: Wisdom from Proverbs, Part III


give me neither poverty nor riches;
feed me with the food that is needful for me,
lest I be full and deny you
and say, “Who is the LORD?”
or lest I be poor and steal
and profane the name of my God.
  Do not slander a servant to his master,
lest he curse you, and you be held guilty.
There are those who curse their fathers
and do not bless their mothers.
There are those who are clean in their own eyes
but are not washed of their filth.
There are those—how lofty are their eyes,
how high their eyelids lift!
There are those whose teeth are swords,
whose fangs are knives,
to devour the poor from off the earth,
the needy from among mankind. 
Proverbs 30:8-14, ESV

We've been thinking about the common sins of the poor (post 1) and of the rich (post 2). We've seen that the sage does not discriminate between criminal sins (such as stealing) and private sins (such as idolatry, materialism and pride), and we've hopefully concluded that we cannot discriminate between these different types of sins either. If we do, and we think our sin struggles aren't as bad as someone else’s, then we are like those who think their צֹאָה don’t stink--modern day vernacular!--“but forgot to wash off their anus” (verse 12, see previous post). 
Now that we've tackled the false notion that the sins of the poor are worse than the sins of the wealthy, we need to dispel another myth, which is that our sins are less damaging than the sins of the poor.  
One of the great strengths of the Christian tradition I was raised in was the emphasis on “heart sins.” The accent was much needed because it was through this emphasis that our predominately middle and upper class congregations were able to see that we were just as spiritually needy as the man found guilty in the court room.  By dwelling on our “inward sins” during personal and corporate worship, the gospel became alive and more beautiful to us.  All of this is very good and I do not wish to discredit this emphasis at all; however, we need to make sure that we don’t fool ourselves into thinking that our "inward," "heart" sin is simply a personal matter between us and God, as if we could actually suppress what’s inside us.  The Scriptures teach that everything we do and say comes from the overflow of our hearts. Thus, to the extent that “inward sin” remains in our hearts, it will surely express itself outwardly.  
In other words, while we like to think of our “heart sin” as being a private issue between us and God, in reality, it always affects those around us. God may be the primary one we assault with our sins of greed and self-righteousness (the basic sins attached to the rich in this passage), but he’s not the only one we assault. Our sins are social evils.
Am I exaggerating by calling what we typically think of as private sins “social evils?”  It sure feels like it, but I think this is the point Argur, the author of this passage, is alluding to in the last part of this passage.  While blindness to one’s own filth is bad enough (v. 12), it gets worse.  Those who consider themselves superior exhibit exactly what they’re thinking to everyone they look upon (v. 13) and every time they open their mouths, whether they’re addressing their own parents (v. 11) or the marginalized poor (v. 14).  While we tend to be blind to our own attitudes, they are never subtle to those we come into contact with. This probably just irritates those around us who are also self-confident, but it is devastating to those who already feel inferior. 
In “When Helping Hurts” (a must read, if you haven’t already!), Steve Corbett and Brian Fikkert help us observe that most poor people tend to describe their poverty in terms of shame, inferiority, powerlessness, humiliation, social isolation, etc. They provide some quotes from the poor from various parts of the world such as the following:
“For a poor person everything is terrible- illness, humiliation, shame. We are cripples; we are afraid of everything; we depend on everyone. No one needs us.  We are like garbage that everyone wants to get rid of.” – Moldova
“When I don’t have any [food to bring my family], I borrow, mainly from my neighbors and friends. I feel ashamed standing before my children when I have nothing to help feed the family. I’m not well when I’m unemployed. It’s terrible.” – Guinea-Bissau  
“When one is poor, she has no say in public, she feels inferior.”  – Uganda
It’s no different for the poor in America.  In the Jobs for Life class, I always ask the class to describe what it feels like when they aren't working. I've asked this question to over 400 mostly unemployed adults; I've never heard anyone say that it was nice or care-free or relaxing.  Instead, I get the same kinds of answers over and over again: 
“I’m depressed.” 
“Ashamed.” 
“I feel like I’m not even a man.” 
“I can’t even work at Burger King! I feel like nobody wants me.” 
While the poor often feel powerless and inferior, conversely, the self-sufficient often consider themselves wise and superior. As Fikkert likes to say, “We have god-complexes” because we ignorantly think we achieved everything we have strictly by our own efforts which, by implication, makes those who haven’t accomplished what we have, i.e., the poor, inferior to us. Thus, I shouldn't be surprised that when I hear my middle class friends talk about people on welfare, the messages I hear are similar to the self-messages of the poor:
“They’re all just lazy!” 
“Why don’t they get a job!” 
“They just think they’re entitled to my money that I worked hard for!” 
“No one gave me a handout, so why should they get one?”  
Sadly, this kind of rhetoric is found in our churches as well. I once heard a pastor state from the pulpit: "I can have compassion for the poor children, but not a grown man. Anyone who won't provide for his own family is worthless." 
Such statements not only reveal our critical attitudes, but also a profound ignorance among middle class Christians about the poor. Is there any wonder why so few poor people attend our evangelical churches? If there's one thing I've learned while working at Advance it's that there are tons of people who want to work, but for a variety of reasons it hasn't worked out for them, evidenced by the fact that there is always a waiting list to get in our Jobs for Life program. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to understand that the last thing a grown man, whose chief ambition is to provide for his family but finds himself constantly rejected by employers, needs to hear is "Get a job!"
Rather than being simply a personal matter between us and God, our attitudes of superiority are extremely damaging and hurtful to others.  The reason is this: our hearts always manifest themselves outwardly.  Some of us are able to guard our tongues better than others; however, if our hearts are prideful, we still can’t help but “look proudly around, casting disdainful glances” (verse 13, NLT).  The way that we look at those in the streets is obvious to them. They know they’re looked down on by the rest of society, causing them to feel further marginalized and isolated.

Verse 14 describes those whose teeth are like swords, and whose jaws are set with knives. In a pre-gunpowder era, the sword was the chief instrument of violence. The commentators I've consulted all believe that the use of weapon imagery used in this passage is a metaphor for destructive speech. 

Why is it that the self-sufficient tend to struggle with self-righteousness on the one hand and criticism on the other? The latter part of verse 14 gives us the answer: “to devour the poor from off the earth, the needy from among mankind.” “Well,” we might think, “I’m not trying to devour anybody.” But this is where we must really search our hearts. Of course we aren't actively trying to kill the poor; neither were the Bible’s wealthy class. But just because we aren't actively destroying the poor, are we not just as guilty when we allow them to be slowly consumed because we passively neglect their needs. 

What's our motive? The reason we think and talk about the poor the way we do is because we want to feel justified in not helping them.  As long as the hungry man is a “lazy-good-for-nothing,” and not an image bearer, we feel okay about holding on to our goods.

The imagery is ironic. We who are pure in our own minds are the real doers of violence! While the self-righteous and self-sufficient may be less likely to be convicted of literal violence, our very words destroy the dignity of others, especially the vulnerable, the poor and the needy. Why? Because we’d rather accumulate wealth than love our neighbors.

Our heart sin of superiority is very serious. We are the ones condemned in this passage, not the impoverished thief. Because the poor are made in God’s image, Jesus takes this very personally: “Whoever mocks the poor, insults his Maker” (Prov 17:5; cf. 14:31; 21:13). If we do not change our thinking, we mock God and devour his image.

Andrew Vincent
Jobs for Life Coordinator
andrew@advancememphis.org


Tuesday, February 19, 2013

Encourage One Another...Build One Another Up


Recently, volunteers and staff members at Advance pulled together to experiment with a new self-exploration and goal setting process for students--MAPS. Students thought through their life experiences to identify their skills and strengths; they also invited their Champions, friends and family to be part of the process, so that those folks could also call out those strengths and skills. While this conversation took place, a volunteer artist did his/her best to represent the life experiences, fears, and strengths in a quick drawing. It took a lot of careful scheduling and dedicated volunteers to pull off this process--and it also took students who were brave enough to be vulnerable to the process. On the whole,we think this experiment was a success, and we're grateful to everyone who helped make it possible.  
After MAPS, Andrew was teaching a lesson on communication in Jobs for Life. He guided students through communicating with a classmate about a recent emotional experience. One student, Latabatha (far right), chose to talk about her MAPS experience the week before. We praise God that she experienced this affirmation of her dignity and worth:
"During the MAPS class I felt proud of myself. I felt very happy and joyful.
I feel much better every day since the day of my MAPS class...
I wanted to hug my mentor, drawer and my good teacher Andrew,
because they all made me feel bigger than I'd ever think I would feel.
I drew a bible around my nightmares.
I am going to take all the advice and good words
they all said about me everywhere I go. My sister and cousin was a big inspiration to me.
At the end of my session I walked out very proudly and joyful.
I now follow my heart because of finding out how good of a person I am
and that I'm very strong with and through all things."

Friday, January 25, 2013

Who Should We Invite to Our Homes?


God is constantly revealing to me that I have so much to learn…from His word, and from my friends. 
I have a dear friend that I have had the pleasure of being in a relationship with since she attended Jobs for Life class. We often ride to church together, and last week as I asked her what she was cooking for Sunday dinner. She named off the usual big “Southern Sunday Dinner” that had my mouth watering. My friend told me that she was making plates for a few homeless men that hang around her apartment complex. I immediately went into a mode of “listen to me, I know best.” I encouraged her to not let strange people into her house, to be careful, and to take their plates outside. Her response to me was “of course I am letting them in—why wouldn't I?” As we were both thinking the other was crazy, I went home and contemplated her words. After much thought, I still thought that she was being careless and not thinking of her own safety. I felt like she needed to listen to me and if she didn't, she was headed for trouble. 
As I was going about my week in my self-righteous thoughts, our staff came together for a time of worship and to delve into scripture together. I was immediately faced with Isaiah 58:7, 
“Is it not to share your bread with the hungry and bring the homeless poor into your house; when you see the naked, to cover him and not to hide yourself from your own flesh?” 
Wow, was I ever convicted. God is leading me to repent  for things I hadn't even realized held me in bondage for so many years. Just when I felt as if I was trudging through life, cultivating relationships by inviting MY FRIENDS into my home, He is showing me that I need to throw away my “A-List Party Invitations” and welcome others to my home and table. How long is it going to take for me to learn how to die to self and live by scripture? A foundational teaching of Scripture is that it is possible to be completely changed through transformed thought patterns. I am choosing to view this circumstance as a call to action. I challenge myself to come out of my comfort zone, trust in God and live as Scripture says I should live--by continuing to journey through imperfect progress. I am so touched by  my relationship with my friend; I continue to learn from her wisdom and her love for me and others. 
Editors's note: The above is written by Cindy Chapple, Jobs for Life grad and admin assistant at Advance Memphis. I think you'll enjoy knowing that shortly after writing this, the below scene occurred in Cindy's living room: a house FULL of people, sharing a meal together. What steps can we take today to live out the truth of Isaiah 58:7?



Thursday, January 17, 2013

A Letter from Phyllis

Phyllis, pictured front right, graduated from Jobs for Life
in December, 2011, and now works at Poplar Point
Health and Rehabilitation.

To my Advance Memphis Family and Overcoming Through Christ group,
First, I want to give honor to God and then to you for helping me make a change in my life. Before I came to Advance Memphis, I knew nothing about God’s unconditional love, faith, hope and the encouragement everyone here has given me. I felt at my age, life was over for me. Who would hire me? And who would love me? 
This school has taught me that I've always been loved by God and there is nothing he won’t do for his children. He knew what I needed, that’s why he sent me to Advance. To me you are all Angels sent by God. I just want you to know (teachers and staff) that I am so grateful to you for not giving up on me, also for your teachings and uplifting words. Now I know my past doesn't define who I am. I now have a full time job and benefits!! The courses I took help me to have confidence on my job and to get along well with my co-workers. I've also been getting complimented on my work by my supervisor and the administrator of the facility thanking ME!! for being a part of their family. 
I pray everyday that God will expand this school building [Advance Memphis] because there are so many of me still out there needing your love and encouragement. Even though my off days prevent me from attending my community groups and church the way I want, I wake up every morning with prayer and the reading of God’s word. When I come home I thank God for everything he’s doing in my life. I sit and read and pray because that’s what keeps my battery charged! 
To God we give the Glory,
Phyllis
P.S. Love you and miss you all. 

Friday, December 28, 2012

2012: Congrats to Our GED Recipients


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Tuesday, December 18, 2012

Andrew and Mike Memphis: 2012 Rap

Each time a Jobs for Life class begins wrapping up for graduation, recognizing the amount of work that the class has completed, Andrew allows them to give him one homework assignment. This rap was his assignment for the last class of 2012, and he performed it at their graduation. The beat for Andrew's rap -- and the second wrap -- were written and performed by one of that days graduating students: Kenneth Chalmers, AKA Mike Memphis. The lyrics to both raps are below. 


Andrew's Rap
This is the last class of twenty twelve
I know this whole class is feelin' themselves [slang for proud]
Mr. Gerald is always the very best dressed
And you know Mr. Charles is too blessed to be stressed
James Cross be keepin that coffee pot hot
I'm proud of all yall that quit smoking pot
I know yall be thinkin my rhymes are lame [slang for uncool]
But com' on, I'm white, and the class is to blame
Ptosha be matchin from her head to her toe
From far away she looks like a rainbow
Terrance started class with a terrorist beard
Martrecia on a bad day is a thing to be feared
LTD, he got his female haters [slang for a person who cannot be happy for another]
Joscelyn and Andre were his chief motivators
Latasha already got her GED
And Nichole brought us a hundred honey buns for free
Valerie looks like an eskimo in that jacket
Andre's so quiet he never once made a racket
Terrika be cheaing cause she already had all the notes
Xavier got shoe strings on the back of his coat
Ms. Barbara went ham in lunch line [slang for being tough]
4 of yall forgot to pay your class fine
Deborah she got caught ghetto dancing in class
Mike and Jamaine they sit on the....same table.
This is the last class of twenty twelve
I know this whole class be feelin themselves!

Memphis Mike's Rap: Roadblocks
written and performed by Kenneth Chalmers (Mike Memphis)

They don't want to see my ball [slang for how I get things done],
they just want to see me fall

I'm go get to where I'm going 
even if I have to crawl
You can handcuff me and put my back against the wall
No matter the situation I'm going to make it through it all
I aint never been a quitter, was born a survivor
Got the heart of David when he took on Goliath
Not a shaky bone in my body I'm a rider
Before gold can shine you gotta take it through the fire
I been there...I done some things in my life brought me pure hell
A couple years ago was sitting in a jail cell
I done some things in my life brought be pure hell
But now I'm out here doing good so you can't tell.